Yesterday, I received news from one of my old friends (as in we have known each other for over 30 years) that my ex-classmates had formed a whatsapp group and they were planning a reunion next month. Since I left school some time ago (an understatement), I have not seen most of them, Right after we left high school, we had a few gatherings during Chinese New Year but as each one of them got married and got busy with their careers and families, such occasions became less and less frequent until they were non-existent. I tried my best to keep in touch by sending festive cards which weren’t reciprocated until I realised there was no point if there was only one hand clapping.
Well all of a sudden, I am told that there’s a group who’ve got together and I realised I’m not interested in knowing what’s happened to any of them. I am a different person now than I was decades ago and if they’d got together for a reunion more than a decade ago, I’d have been a lot more enthusiastic than I am now.
A major reason for my lack of enthusiasm for meeting up is I just don’t see the point of people are going to meet up for tea for 2 hours and then forget about you for the next decade or so. I’ve made new friends since I left school as I am sure the rest of them have. Maybe it’s just me but I don’t feel a sense of nostalgia any more and there’is just one friend from high school I would like to keep in touch with as I know I can always depend on her and vice versa, through thick and thin times.
How do you feel about high school reunions? Do you look forward to them or are you like me who just doesn’t see much point in catching up?
Hi Juniper,
To me I am like you since I don’t see any point of seeing someone you do not want to see or have grudge against and I am sure it is the same as them too. Normally, it would be just the small boring talk and well everyone will grow out of those phase where there is not point of keeping touch with someone with no common thing or they deem not worth of their time.
So it goes the same to us who do not have time to keep up the friendship with someone who would not care about us at all. Everyone makes new friends and maintaining it needs effort. It also need understanding and time. I would prefer to go for quality than quantity now. Fewer but better than having a bunch of fair weathered friends.
After all, our time is also precious to be spending with people who is worth our friendship.
Hi Juniper,
I don’t see any point of seeing someone you do not want to see or have grudge against and I am sure it is the same as them too. Normally, it would be just the small boring talk and well everyone will grow out of those phase where there is not point of keeping touch with someone with no common thing or they deem not worth of their time.
So it goes the same to us who do not have time to keep up the friendship with someone who would not care about us at all. Everyone makes new friends and maintaining it needs effort. It also need understanding and time. I would prefer to go for quality than quantity now. Fewer but better than having a bunch of fair weathered friends.
It is not easy to build a house but you can just flatten it in just mere few seconds.
Hi, in my case, it is just same like seeing my primary school friends. Ermm, same as you, I just do not see the point in catching up as we have not contacted each other for such a long time. There will be no more mutual connection between us. No point actually. 🙂
Glad there are people who feel the way I do. It’s just that I don’t see much point in reconnecting for a couple of hours after which everyone is most likely to go back to their own lives and not reconnect again unless I am on whatsapp and I am not so no one will bother to email me or meet up unless it’s in one big group.
Usually I won’t go cause I just don’t feel like talking about my life for the past xxx years since high school to a friend which we lost touch xxx yrs ago
My sentiment exactly, you put it in a nutshell.
I just attended a high school reunion last night and would like to share some thoughts with you. I have a really strong and close relationship with some of the girls so I’m more than glad to attend such reunion to see these girls. Well I shall say that I only want to talk to them during these reunions. I did sent out greetings and sms-es during special festivals (like what you did hehe~) but similarly, I found myself stupid to do so when some girls just don’t bother to give me a reply. (I believe that replying a message is that that hard). So basically in a high school reunion, we tend to group ourselves into different small groups and “reunion” among the us haha! Well I will still attend such gathering for my high school friends, but not for my primary school friends. I don’t even remember their faces and I have no interest about their recent life.
Now that is interesting, that you group yourself into smaller groups. Yeah, I really don’t know what is s hard about returning someone’s greeting but of course in the old days, you had to send a card instead of sms so for some people, signing their name on a card, sticking on a stamp and dropping it into a post box is so difficult and time consuming. Sometimes I wonder why I was the only foolish moron to do so.
Why bother with physically attending reunions when there’s social media? I still talk to pretty much some of the people from secondary school that I was chummy with back then. I occasionally see some people I went to college with. Once a year primary school reunions? I’m okay with a couple hours out of the year. The rest I stalk on Facebook once in a while. Too many kid pictures on my newsfeed as it is.
I made a dumb mistake of attending a smaller reunion of people I was in primary school with, where only a handful of them were actual classmates of mine, but otherwise I barely knew anyone else in attendance then (as in: was never in the same class), let alone now. Reunions to me now just feel like networking events…?
A classmate contacted my husband for a meetup. He went and the classmate was trying to sell this skincare product or device to him. That was the 1st and last phone call he answered from that classmate. He avoided that classmate since.