I don’t trust many people because there aren’t many deserving of my trust. When my trust has been broken time and time again by people whom I have known for years, it really damages the psyche. It’s not a nice feeling to be suspicious of people but when people whom you have known for years and regard as a good friend keep things from you which damage your reputation, then you learn the hard way not to be too trusting of anyone.
Integrity is an important value and people who mean what they say get respect. Shockingly, I encounter people who cover one broken promise with another. It’s one thing to recklessly promise something as if that isn’t bad enough but what compounds the first untruth is saying you want to make up for it by taking the ‘victim’ out for lunch and in my mind, I am going “Yeah, right! Sheep will fly”. Sure enough, no following through second promise because if there was any sincerity, lunch with that person would be over and done with by now. Not holding my breath for the so-called lunch because I know it ain’t ever going to happen. Too awkward for that person. Too much for the person to have a confrontation especially when she knows she is in the wrong.
“Do unto others as you would have others do unto you”, most people would be familiar with this saying. The same people who lie with impunity and abandonment would be the first to condemn others who do the same to them. I feel that such people are borderline sociopaths if not irredeemable sociopaths as they feel no remorse, guilt or empathy for their actions. They feel nothing even when you inform them that they messed up your life and you had to carry the can for them. If I did that to someone, I would be completely mortified if confronted but for others, it’s as if they did nothing wrong. I find it hard to fathom the minds of people who say anything they like and forget about it as soon as the words are out of their mouth.
Yes, I can relate to this as I’m still waiting for a lunch or dinner promised monthssss ago. Done a favour and the person wanted to thank me with a meal during our next gathering. Then another favour done, and the same promised was made while the first promise is still pending, but gathering was over months ago. It’s so tiring that I have to remind myself to just forget what the person promised, because they themselves do not remember what they say. And i always wonder to myself what is the the value of trust to people, nowadays.
No value at all. nowadays people say anything they want and don’t expect you to take them seriously. I don’t believe anything anyone says any more unless they can prove it by their actions.